I mean of course I do, but I don't feel like going into it.
A poster on my previous blog entry stated her daughter thought it might be Un-Tzniyasdik to give a picture of herself. As a result, the boy declined to date her.
I don't agree about it being untzniyusdik. They will be spending time together in close quarters, hopefully making eye contact. That's what you do on dates. He's gonna see her anyway, the picture isn't inappropriate for that reason. But to nix a shidduch cuz you DIDN'T get a picture?
First of all: Good for you! Good for you and your daughter for not capitulating and giving in to this idiocy of demanding a picture. I would venture to say that he was not Your Intended One. I cannot imagine that H' (Hashem) would allow a bashert to slip through your hands because you didn't give him a picture.
I believe we can blame (cuz I love to do that) the shadchanim.
If every single shadchan out there would refuse to give pictures of girls, what would happen? Boys would actually have to risk a date with someone who doesn't look like what they think or more often their mother thinks is the ideal look for their son!
And for you boys' mothers who say, "you know what's involved for a boy to date? He has to give up seder, rent a car, shower/shave/get dressed, drive (let's say up to Monsey, for Brooklyn people that's practically Canada), pay for drinks/dinner/mini golf/parking/tolls, then drive back! that's hours and hours and lotsa moola and what if the minute he walks in the door he doesn't like her looks? Let's avoid that problem!
NO! NO! NO!
Let's teach our boys that it's not just about looks! That you can attempt to have a conversation with someone who might not be "your look" but might prove to be interesting! engaging! cute! charming!
