Sunday, November 30, 2014

Ho -Hum

I was really annoyed about 2 things today.  DIP3 suggested I blog about it.  As you all know, I haven't blogged in a very long time, and I told her so - plus the fact that I get no feedback.  To which she replied, "people read it, but don't respond".  And anyway, this is a good way for me to express my distress.  It's too long for a facebook post.

I am irked that it is acceptable to ask for a picture of The Girl when suggesting a shidduch.  Mainly I am bothered by this, because I think it is just plain disgusting that without even meeting a girl face to face, a boy will nix her immediately.  I get it if he doesn't like blond or red.  Actually, scratch that, I don't get it at all.  Ever hear of hair dye? or buying a different color sheitel? But that's not even the issue!
How do you nix meeting someone just because she isn't "the look" you want?  If all the other details about her are a match, just meet and shmooze.
How vain and empty headed are these heilig boys we are running after. 
This isn't the same thing as meeting a girl once or twice and then deciding she just isn't attractive.  Gosh!

The other thing that has been irking me all day is hearing stories of people using 70 or 110 or 200 AMEX credit cards to buy merchandise.
It doesn't matter if it's Halachically acceptable. Is it within the spirit of the law?
Even if your brother in law personally called up AMEX and asked "them"  (who? some secretary?) and "they" said it was ok to buy one $400 item with 13 credit cards, each of which would be swiped 3 times to pay for said item.

There is just something so tasteless about this whole..... chap.

and how on earth did they get all those cards? A picture on vinnews had a guy with what looked like 100 cards.  Can you imagine his credit score?

If you're paying off debt, guess what! If it's on the credit card, it is still debt!



Anonymous said...

welcome back
even if its not really back and just a quick visit.
I agree with the irksomeness of those issues

Anonymous said...

welcome back.. If a boy asks for a picture of a suggested shidduch, I think the girl should ask for one as well.

Bug said...

Hear hear, if you are not resourceful enough to find a picture by yourself you don't deserve one.

Anonymous said...

Glad to see your post. My daughter refused to send a picture and the boy declined to look into her because of it. (She is not hiding anything, but felt it was not tzanua)
I say it weeds out the bad apples.

daughtersintheparsha said...

ok, anonymous #3. I don't think it's untzniyus. Isn't she going to make eye contact with him in the car? that's way more intimate. I don't know you (or do I??!!) but girls have been told EVERYTHING is not tzanua.
wait, was your post a joke?

daughtersintheparsha said...

anonymous #1 - who said I'm just visiting?

Anonymous said...

Anon 1 here -
Sometimes people return to post just one thing. Wanted to voice welcome back EVEN if you weren't planning to to stay. It would be preferable if you stay ative, but I'm not in control of these things!
Oooo and I agree with bug! Aha