There is a new aspect I don't like about the whole dating/shidduch scene. Not new, but newly realized by me.
Our beautiful bnos yisroel are expected to develop a meaningful relationship after 3 or 4 dates. With an absolute stranger. And if it doesn't work out, and the girl is lucky enough to have a "list", a week or two later she begins developing another meaningful relationship.
You know what? this is wreaking havoc on girls' emotional state.
Even if the boy is boring, ugly, and self centered.
Even if the girl says no.
Even if it ends before it ever leads anywhere "meaningful".
Kudos and Mazel Tovs and yay for those who marry the second or third boy they date.
And I am not whining about girls who have been dating for ten years,
or girls who are negative,
or girls who have unrealistic expectations.
I am talking about girls who have full, busy lives, who date in order to meet their Eizer Knegdo.
They are becoming emotionally exhausted.
I do not mean girls who think it is tragic that they aren't married at 22.
I mean girls who find it hard to share everything with a boy or with their parents because it is the same old stuff.
can someone please tell me a solution? but serious, well thought out options, please.
I KNOW the system stinks, so no complaints. just positive suggestions.
Then maybe I can try to implement some of these new ideas for DIP 3. who isn't yet in the parsha.